Twins

It was a weird kind of weekend. All started on Saturday. Mrs H and I got to spend some Quality time together and failed to do anything we planned. We decided that we had had enough of sitting in at weekends and thought a night out would be cool. So we headed for the almighty oracle and made a discovery.

There was an Italian Market in the arena area and while working around we discovered CN has a twin. Now I know generally to other people, children with downs syndrome maybe look the same, but to us CN is unique. However this little girl was the spitting image of CN. Her look, her mannerisms just about everything. I decided to go over and say “Hi” to her mother, since she had caught us staring at her and I didn’t want her to think we were arses. I wondered over and explained that I wasn’t staring and that the girl was CN’s twin.

Have you ever wanted to glimpse into a Parallel universe? You see it is something I believe in. I believe that for every major event in you life and the resulting decision a life line skews off and a parallel event is created. So in this case nearly eleven years ago I decided that I would not be leaving my daughter in hospital, like her Mum wanted, and that we were all going home together. Guess people will judge me on that, but in my heart that was never an option.

So anyone way back to CN’s twin. Turns out the Mother was actually her foster mother and that the little girl had a rough ride in this life but now she was with them she was doing better. I didn’t pry to much as I had only just met them. However it was very surreal moment for me. Makes me glad I had the balls to stand up and be heard when it counted and that there are some truly amazing people out there.

After that we went to book seats to see wanted, and then headed to Chili’s for a very average burger. Then it was back for out showing of wanted.

It was good yearn. Not what I expected. I would stick it on my not to queue for list but worth a watch at the Cinema. Question… why the hell would you go and see a movie where you have to sit right at the front? I mean surely you can’t see fork all. Even worse might be right at the front and in the corner. Luckily as we booked early it was middle, middle for us.

Sunday was Softball and a party. Where we met another little girl with DS.

All in all a good one.

Peace

Ketch up

It’s been a while…. Oh yes it has.

Weekend was spent up at my Mums and some time with my Sister as she had the weekend off. Sunday was a Braai and the weather held even if it was blowing a gale.

On Monday Mrs H started her new job. I got to say I am rather impressed with her company. She turned up on Monday and not only were they expecting her but they had an itenary all laid out for her for the next couple of weeks. She has desk and PC, Email etc already to go. Which is 100% more prepared than here. Usually new starts calls from reception, we go “who?”. Then there is a scramble to find a desk and a PC. Next it takes at least 3 days to get a login and email etc. Anyway she says that everyone seems nice and she is working with a few other newbies.

While Mrs H was starting her new job. Yours truly was at CN sports day which was very good and of course different. Since she is now with people of like and even worse abilities she seemed to be more relaxed and enjoying the day. She also got to take part in few more events.

That’s about it folks. House still not sold grrrrrrrr, but then in this climate no big surprise.

Good result all round

You have to laugh when the French get knocked out a tournament in the first round (yes I know we didn’t even make it but) and boy did I laugh even harder when it was cocky, arrogant bell Henry that deflects the ball in the net for the winning goal.

Anyways yesterday was CN annual review of her statement of needs. A day I have long dreaded for the last 8 years. You see most kids have parent teachers evening. Where you go along and find out how well little John is doing. However we have to endure the occasion of sitting with the professional and finding out that how well you thought your daughter was doing isn’t actually that well in the eye’s of the professionals. Normal there is a room fool of professionals, healthcare people, speech and language etc etc Think there was 10 people in last years. I used blog about this a lot on my other blog. However this year it was actually good. For the last few years CN has been mainstream school, the headmaster was a big twat and saw CN as special needs child rather than a student with special needs. The reviews were difficult because the school (even though the teachers tried hard) had no idea how to deal with CN. There was a certain amount of relief on Mr Twatheads face when we decided to move CN to a school for special needs. Anyway I used to come back from these reviews rather deflated (as the good DM will testify) so yesterday in preparation I took the day off. Seems I didn’t need to. Since the school has to do these reviews for everone, the system was much slicker and since CN is very happy in the school her progress has been awesome. Five us in the room this time teacher, councillor and parents. Still left me a little wobbly but that is more to do with having the meetings at all.

So that was my day. Back at work woo to hoo to the what a load of poo

It' s out of here

I really have been talking random bollocks for a while now. I really must try and stop it. Think it might be the first signs of madness setting in. Holy hell that weekend flew past. It started on Friday with me having to attend a driving workshop. Now I can full understand the need for this but I found it a bit weird and a little half arsed to be honest. Everyone there was doing to avoid the points on the license including me. So having been at work all day and then attending this workshop I was rather tired and had a rather bad head at the time. The course consists of two sections. First up was the video games. Click the mouse when you are the correct distance from the car in front, what speed would you do here in this situation and lastly hazard awareness. All interspersed with various questions about our driving. Then a 2.5 hour lecture about speeding where they emphasis not driving tired or pissed off, but then by 9.30 you are both. I found the information good but the videos were daft. You know it is test so you know what is coming and 2.5 hours really was a long time. I felt a short sharp blast would have been more effective. Will I slow down? Well yes I have been doing this for a while.

Banks are daft. Mrs H and I spent some of Saturday trying to open a new bank account. You see I feel it would be better to have all our accounts in one place and since I have been with mine for 18 years and we have a joint saving account there, you would have thought it would be a simple task. Eeerrrr no. In the end after an hour all we managed to do was do the paper work to change her name on the join account. Grrrrrrr. Frustrating.

Softball was great again. I was first up to bat and hit a home run. Not a bad start. We ended up losing though but that’s the way the cookie crumbles or ball flies.

Jason is back...

Friday the 13th. They should like make a move about that. I hope you are well and nothing to bad is happening. Next week we have CN annual review. To be honest I don’t really look forward to this and it usually drains me emotionally. You see unlike most kids we get to find out from the ‘experts’ how she is doing. Mentally, socially and physically. The problem is I see her a lot over the year and to me she is just my daughter. To this people though with out the emotional attachment she is patient/client. So while I feel she is doing really well in general they don’t tend to agree and we find out just how bad she is doing against different tests and bench marks. It also supposed to check that she is getting the right level of care and that she is at the school, etc,etc.

So far every year I have gone and then come in to work and got feck all (What’s new I hear you cry). So this year I am taking the day off.

In other news. Mrs H is well excited about her new job. Still haven’t sold the house. Looks like rain all weekend woo hoo 

PS 3 here I come !!

Well a large piece of the puzzle of life fell into place yesterday. Mrs H has a new full time proper job in the field that she is vastly qualified for. You see thanks to her student visa she was only able to work 20 hours a week and as a qualified IT professional companies were not very keen to offer her anything, despite having a masters Degree in Business Management and a degree in ICT. However she is now able to work full time and will be working for a Publisher in Basingstoke.

Softball was a blast on Sunday. We had full teams so it made it a lot more exciting to play. This made it a close game and very entertaining. I made a few catches and a couple of runs too, so in all a good session. I couldn’t unwind the big home runs though as I pulled my back the week before hitting the ground so had to bat on the safe side. Choosing to place the ball rather then batter the crap out of it. CN and I played a little catch. She used “Daddies glove” and the first ball hit square in the face. I need to teach to a) Move her hand s to catch or b) Duck.

That’s all folks hope you are all well.

Red light when your already late

Sometime you can only sit back and laugh at life. For example my Uncle left me and my sister as the main benefactors of his estate. This mainly consisted of the house he bought some years ago. So now we have the means to maybe clear some of our debts after paying off what he owned and guess what happen, go on guess. Housing market crash… I mean it really doesn’t make a big difference to me but it just frustrating as all my life those events seem to conspire against me. Don’t get me wrong I am more then happy with my lot in life but I think it is fair to say that when it comes to things like that I will never be the lucky one. I am happy with that but it still makes me chuckle. Is that Irony, like fork when you need is a spoon? Bit like dying of thirsty and all you some nice orange juice but you are allergic to it.

Anyway not much else to report. Started looking at houses which might help if the house sale happens or even someone goes to look at it. I will post pictures on here one day honest.

SNNNAAAAAP

Well it has been a funny old couple of days (Well almost a week to be honest). I have been in a strange mood for most of that. The weekend was nice and quiet. We went to go an see What happens in Vegas. It was pretty much run of the mill Romcom, with all the ducks ending nicely in a row. Sometimes it is nice to just go and sit and watch something like that. Not to taxing.

Sunday was Softball again. Turned up at Brunx’s at 9.30 and hooted the horn…. Nothing, so I called him… nothing. So I sent Mrs H in to get him. She found full clothed on the bed having just got in… Fair play I say. Anyway he was dressed and out the door in 10 mins although still very very eeerrr hung-over. The games were ok. We didn’t have a full complement but manages to play a bit. Got a bit heated at one point. Russell and myself went really sure why but there was a lot of finger pointing and raised voices. I think there was dispute about a double play we made.

Anyway Monday and Tuesday I spent in bed as I had a stomach bug which I suspect I caught from CN.

Finally I think the funny mood is breaking but last night I felt really stressed a very snappy had to work hard not to loose it over little things. Anyway back to normal today so all is good.